The Purifying Grace Blog had an interesting post on questions to ask a counselor. When you’re looking for someone to help you with your sexual addiction, here are some lists of questions to consider.
QUESTIONS FROM DEBRA LAASER (From her book Shattered Vows)
- Have you worked with other couples dealing with sexual purity issues? Sexual addiction? If so, how many?
- Do you typically advise them to stay together? (added via email: How do you work with couples?)
- Do you recommend individual counseling as well as couples counseling?
- Are you familiar with any of these authors who write about sexual purity: Dr. Patrick Carnes, Dr. Mark Laaser, Dr. Dave Carder, Dr. Harry Schaumburg?
- Do you address family-of-origin issues?
- Do you endorse 12-step programs or support groups of any kind?
QUESTIONS FROM BETHSADA WORKSHOPS
(see Purifying Grace Blog)
THOUGHTS FROM JEFF
Start talking to someone immediately – If you’re life has blow apart, you need to find someone to start talking to immediately! Most counselors can help with crisis management, and that’s more of what you are. Don’t wait months trying to find the “right” counselor.
Some experience vs specialized – Many counselors have experience talking about sexual issues (because it’s so prevalent). But fewer have specialized training on sexual addiction and sexual recovery. This is what you want to try to investigate.
Go Christian if you can – Since so much of addiction recovery involves a heart change, you need to work with someone who believes that your heart can be changed and can help you connect with God to do it. This is the spiritual healing aspect that must happen in recovery.
WHAT ABOUT YOU?
Q: What questions would you add?
Q: Have you been to a counselor to talk about sexual recovery and had a bad experience? What was that like?
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