Top Tips for Sexual Purity

TOP TIPS FOR SEXUAL PURITY PODCAST SEASON 4, EPISODE 021

Help in your sexual purity journey by building your support team.  Here’s the link to our latest podcast show:

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Jeff and Marsha Fisher
Porn to Purity Podcast (I-Tunes)
Top Tips For Sexual Purity Podcast (I-Tunes)
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marsha@porntopurity.com

 

TOP TIPS FOR SEXUAL PURITY PODCAST
SEASON 4, EPISODE 020

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Help in your sexual purity journey by building your support team.  Here’s the link to our latest podcast show:

Jeff and Marsha Fisher Porn to Purity Podcast (I-Tunes) Top Tips For Sexual Purity Podcast (I-Tunes)
jeff@porntopurity.com marsha@porntopurity.com

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Jeff of Porn to Purity interviews Dr. Doug Weiss
Author of Clean: A Proven Plan For Men Committed to Sexual Integrity

LISTEN – to the podcast with this link

Dr. Doug Weiss is director of Heart to Heart Counseling in Colorado Springs, CO.  He is also one of the leading experts in sexual addiction recovery.

His book Clean is fantastic.  It’s an easy to read book written to Christian men and to churches on how to find freedom from sexual sin.

Dr. Weiss is a Christian counselor and the book is filled with scriptural help and expertise from his 25 years of helping addicts and their spouses.

In this interview we talk about:

  • What it means to be clean.
  • What Christian men are lacking when it comes to finding freedom from sexual sin.
  • Why the pull is so powerful.
  • How to get started on your purity journey.
  • How churches can be safe places for strugglers.

dr_doug_weissDr. Weiss can be reached at www.drdougweiss.com or www.sexaddict.com

Find his book – HERE or HERE


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How to Support Someone After Failure

by Jeff Fisher on May 22, 2013

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“How to Support Someone After Failure”

LISTEN – to my Top Tips For Sexual Purity Podcast episode on this one.

 

We are talking about building our support team on my Top Tips podcasts this season.  Sometimes we are the one doing the supporting.  We are connected to other guys or girls and helping them on their journey toward sexual purity.

Here’s a short list of tips for helping someone after they’ve failed:

1.  Be a Presence –  Your presence, in person, by phone, email & text means the world to your struggling friend.

2.  Be Empathetic (or Sympathetic) – Identify with their struggles if you can.  If you are a sexual struggler, be right there with them.  Walk at their pace.  Sit in the pain with them.  If you are not a sexual struggler, walk at their pace and think about other struggles you’ve had that have slowed you down.failure-success

3. Extend Grace – Shame is heavy in times of failure.  So pour on the love and grace of God, and your love.

4. Be Patient – the Bible calls this “longsuffering”.  I call it patience or endurance with your friend.  No body needs to be told to “hurry up and get well”.

5. Check Your Anger – Why are you getting angry with your friend who is failing?  Is this more about him or about you?  Did he or she hurt you with their failure, or do you take it personally that they are interrupting your day with a struggle?

6. Keep it Real – Don’t let your friend go into denial, rationalization or minimization of his sins.  Yes, this did happen.  Yes, you messed up.  Accept this and make adjustments.  We have to be gental with truth.  Remember the Truth of Jesus sets us free… always.

7. Encourage Repentance – Confession, brokenness and repentance are always the right responses to personal failure.  Ask questions about what your friend needs to repent of and how he can do it.

8. Be a Faith Presence- Your faith can carry your friend, just like the 4 friends carried the paralytic to Jesus.  When we fail we are down, we lose faith, we loose hope.  You know this is part of the bigger picture.  So pray for your friend, in faith, to God.

9. Drill down – Sexual acting out are just behaviors.  But the real issues are deeper.  Go deeper with your friend.  Ask probing questions.  What was he feelling when he did this?  What has been going on this last week that makes it a struggle for her?

10. Anything Changed? – Something changed that led to their acting out.  Explore with them.  Was a boundary loosened?  Did someone come into their work that was triggery.  Are they active in reading the Bible and praying?  “What’s changed” is a great question.

Jeff@porntopurity.com

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TOP TIPS FOR SEXUAL PURITY PODCAST
SEASON 4, EPISODE 018

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Top Tips Podcast S4E17 – In and Out of Crisis

May 3, 2013

TOP TIPS FOR SEXUAL PURITY PODCAST SEASON 4, EPISODE 017 http://traffic.libsyn.com/the104podcast/Season_4_-_Episode_017_-_In_And_Out_of_Crisis_-_Are_You_Prepared.mp3   Jeff and Marsha Fisher Porn to Purity Podcast (I-Tunes) Top Tips For Sexual Purity Podcast (I-Tunes) jeff@porntopurity.com marsha@porntopurity.com

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Top Tips Podcast S4E16 – Mudwalking, Discipling and Coaching

May 1, 2013

TOP TIPS FOR SEXUAL PURITY PODCAST SEASON 4, EPISODE 016 http://traffic.libsyn.com/the104podcast/Season_4_-_Episode_016_-_Mudwalking_-_Discipling_-_Coaching.mp3   Jeff and Marsha Fisher Porn to Purity Podcast (I-Tunes) Top Tips For Sexual Purity Podcast (I-Tunes) jeff@porntopurity.com marsha@porntopurity.com

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Top Tips Podcast S4E15 – Doing Life Together – Getting Started

April 28, 2013

TOP TIPS FOR SEXUAL PURITY PODCAST SEASON 4, EPISODE 015 http://traffic.libsyn.com/the104podcast/Season_4_-_Episode_015_-_Doing_Life_Together_-_Getting_Started.mp3   Jeff and Marsha Fisher Porn to Purity Podcast (I-Tunes) Top Tips For Sexual Purity Podcast (I-Tunes) jeff@porntopurity.com marsha@porntopurity.com

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What Does a Good Accountability Relationship Look Like? – Part 2

February 8, 2013

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What Does a Good Accountability Relationship Look Like? – Part 1

February 7, 2013

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When Do You Move From Failure to Being an Example?

September 6, 2012

This post was written for XXXChurch.com’s Men’s Blog.  Jeff is a monthly contributor. Hear Jeff’s recent podcast of this post on The Top Tips For Sexual Purity Podcast:  HERE — It’s a great question, but don’t get stuck on the word “failure”.  Make sure you know what you have failed in and what failure means.  […]

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