Q: I’m worried the pornographic images I’ve looked at will never go away and will affect me and my marriage in the future. What do you think? Can I have a clean mind?
Some guys are able to heal deeply from the images and objectifying. The more you let the Lord heal past wounds and hurts the better it will be. Building sobriety from porn and masturbation will help a lot. And when you start to move from selfishness to serving others, loving others, connecting with others it will help too. As you head God’s direction, repent, and walk in righteousness He will ignite your passion for the things that are on His heart.
I can’t say that the porn you have viewed and sexual boundaries you have crossed won’t affect the future thinking. Of course it has some bearing. But if you are aware of your tendencies, get wise help, and have a good purity strategy, you will have a strong footing in life.
It’s not much different from a person who has anger, unforgiveness and bitterness or wounded relationships. Of course that’s going to affect their relationships. Of course it will bleed into marriage, and can cause great damage. What’s really bad is when a person is pushing their anger and unforgiveness down, hoping it will go away. It has to be brought to the surface, surrendered to the Lord our Healer, and the person has to walk in love, thankfulness, and forgiveness. Does that make sense? Your struggles with porn affect a different part of your heart, but it’s no different.
Top tips for working toward a clean mind:
- Read Scripture everyday and soak in it.
- Turn hard into praise and worship music. Let God wash your mind.
- Journal your thoughts and feelings God.
- Get help from a counselor working on the hurts in your heart.
- Cut out the visual content that’s tripping you up (sites, channels, magazines, etc.)
- Tap the creativity of your mind with a new hobby or project.
GET HELP FOR YOUR PURITY JOURNEY
- Online / Phone Support Groups
- Accountability Coaching
- Personal Coaching
- Speaking at Conferences