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24 Purity Resolutions for 2012

by Jeff Fisher on December 28, 2011

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Happy New Year

From Jeff & Marsha Fisher at Porn to Purity

  1. I resolve to go to a Christian counselor for the first time.
  2. I resolve to go to a sexual support group for the first time.
  3. I resolve to read a book on sexual purity.  Anything from Laaser, Carnes, or Weiss is awesome!
  4. I resolve to fully disclose my sexual struggles to another person of the same gender.
  5. I resolve to read my bible everyday asking God to help me with my sexual struggles.
  6. I resolve to put Covenant Eyes (accountability software) on all of my computers.
  7. I resolve to have a friend block the questionable channels on my TV.
  8. I resolve to throw away all DVDs with sexual content or nudity.  
  9. I resolve to stop surfing through the Sunday circulars for sensual material.
  10. I resolve to throw away or unsubscribe to all magazines that get me sexually excited.
  11. I resolve to allow someone to keep me accountable to my I-Tunes downloads.
  12. I resolve to not go see any movies without researching them on a site like Plugged In.com
  13. I resolve to keep looking for an accountability partner until I find a good one.
  14. I resolve to let my minister know about my sexual struggles and be a part of my “safe” team.
  15. I resolve to get rid of any music that is sexual explicit or stimulating.
  16. This year I resolve to call someone everyday so I can stay connected and stay pure.
  17. This year I resolve to dump my girlfriend / boyfriend who is hindering my desire to be sexually pure.
  18. This year I resolve to make sure my home and work computer are in public view.
  19. This year I resolve to get some help from a counselor so I can stop masturbating.
  20. This year I resolve to dress in a way that is modest and doesn’t cause a stumbling block to others.
  21. This year I resolve to value others instead of objectify.  Somebody’s daughter.  Somebody’s son.
  22. This year I resolve to begin jotting my feelings and struggles in a journal or blog.
  23. This year I resolve to have a purity plan in place every time I travel.
  24. This year I resolve to ask Jesus to heal me from the emotional ties I have to old boyfriends / girlfriends.

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Jeff and Marsha: Writing For Covenant Eyes and XXXChurch

by Jeff Fisher on October 6, 2011

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There are so many fantastic ministries and websites that are helping others deal with pornography addictions and pursue the path to purity.  We have made good friends at many of these ministries.

Two ministries that are doing exceptional jobs with their blogs are Covenant Eyes.com and XXXChurch.com

COVENANT EYES
(www.covenanteyes.com/blog)

Covenant Eyes offers some of the best Internet filtering and accountability software.  But their Breaking Free blog is fantastic too.  Luke Gilkerson writes some fantastic content.  His blogs and podcast interviews are cutting edge when it comes to helping others with Internet pornography and Internet safety.  Luke has several who write for Breaking Free.  We are privileged to be on this team.

Read Jeff’s Articles: http://www.covenanteyes.com/author/jeff-fisher/

Read Marsha’s Articles: http://www.covenanteyes.com/author/marsha-fisher/

BONUS – INTERVIEW
Check Out Jeff’s Porn to Purity Podcast Interview with Luke Gilkerson of Covenant Eyes.com:  HERE

 

XXXCHURCH
(www.xxxchurch.com)

Craig Gross started XXXChurch.com less than ten years ago.  It has developed a cutting edge ministry to those stuck in pornography addiction and those trapped in the porn industry.  They have been very successful reaching all ages, but especially younger people.

There’s a lot happening on their website, including blogs for Men, Women, Teens, Ministers and Couples.  The XXXChurch team has our permission to use any of our blogs they feel would be helpful to there audience, and we occasionally submit original articles for XXXChurch.  Jeff has recently been asked to join their Men’s blogging team.

Check out Jeff’s blogs: http://www.xxxchurch.com/blogauthorjefffisher.html

Check out Marsha’s blogs: http://www.xxxchurch.com/blogauthormarshafisher.html

BONUS – INTERVIEW
Check out Jeff’s interview with Craig Gross, founder of XXXChurch.com:  HERE

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Special Note: We thought it would be important to say that we’re not paid for our submissions to these blogs.  We’re just excited that God is taking the things we are learning in our recovery and helping a wider audience. We also hope that you will take the time to write your story and the things you’re learning.  The can be very valuable for those individuals and couples that are struggling.

Decision That Led to Me to Porn: California or Cable?

by Jeff Fisher on June 23, 2011

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disneyland1Our family’s decision to get cable TV was one of the worst we ever made.
Our family didn’t travel much. We went to Disney World when I was five, but I don’t remember much. So a 13-hour trip once or twice a year from Austin, Texas to Miami, Oklahoma to visit the grandparents was about it. It was a surprise then when my dad announced to the family that we they were planning a family tip to California.

My uncle lived in San Diego. My dad and mom decided that a trip to California would be good. We could take in DisneyLand, Hollywood, Sea World, and try to get into a game show or a TV taping. My brother and I were ecstatic!

About this time, my brother and I were bugging my parents for Cable TV. Our friends had HBO, MTV, WTBS, & NICKELODEON and we wanted to get them as well. So my parents brought an interesting offer on the table:

We can go to California or we can get cable.

satteliteThis was a no-brainer for my brother and me. We wanted cable! We were so excited to be getting in, but little did I know it would be opening the door to rated R movies, late night “Skin”emax movies, and the oversexualized world of MTV. I thought it was cool, but I would soon be watching things no teenage boy should be able to watch.


REFLECTIONS AT 39
That was 27 years ago for me. I had no idea that cable programming and movies would warm me up to the world of masturbation, fantasy, and eventually porn.  My parents could have given some more guidelines and restrictions on the TV, sure. But I can’t blame them for the decisions and clicks that I would later choose.

  • In recovery, I have been able to identify cable TV as one of the roots of my addiction.
  • I have to greatly filter what I and my family watch.
  • I am very sensitive to what my kids are watching.
  • I have to work hard to engage relationships with real people, instead of the television.

Marathon Training and The Road to Sexual Purity

by Jeff Fisher on May 2, 2011

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TOP TIPS FOR SEXUAL PURITY PODCAST
“Marathon Training and The Road Toward Sexual Purity”

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Last year I had a series of blog posts comparing marathon training to the sexual purity journey.  I thought it would be good to point you toward it again.  You can also listen to the podcast by clicking the link above.

Here are the posts and the shownotes:
1.0  – Running a Marathon on 5k Legs
2.0 – Training For a Marathon:  3 Essentials That Will Save You
3.0 – Training For a Marathon:  Hurting in New Places & Finding Balance
4.0 – Race Day:  The Lowest Lows and the Highest Highs

SUBSCRIBE:  Click here to subscribe to Top Tips For Sexual Purity on I-Tunes

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Why Do We Share Our Story Publically? (Marsha)

by Marsha Fisher on April 18, 2011

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husband_wifeWe have discovered that sharing our story publicly has encouraged so many people and helped people to realize that they were not alone.

We don’t pretend to have it all together. We are still in the recovery process. Jeff’s porn addiction being found out two years ago is still very recent. The shock and the grief stages are mostly past, but we are still new in the rebuilding and growth stages. We still go to our counselors every 3 weeks and pay them money. We still have to do our homework and exercises that our counselors ask us to do.

But we have seen God do so much in our marriage. And we found that when we shared our story it was a great help to us and to others.

water-handsTHE BEGINNING OF PORN TO PURITY
Marsha had the idea of a website where we could share our story and offer resources. When Jeff’s porn addiction was uncovered, the people around us didn’t know where to point us. They didn’t know what resources to offer.  We believed the website would be a resource to people.

We also felt the website would be a place we could share our story. We didn’t grow up in churches and communties where people talked about sexual things. We really felt alone when our world fell apart. We felt like no one else understood.

5 THINGS THAT SHARING OUR STORY DOES …

hopeHELPS US HEAL – Every time we share our story we bring it to the light. We get it out. We hear each others’ side of the story. We feel God’s healing touch.

GIVES US COURAGE – The first time was the hardest. But each time we tell the story we get bolder and more comfortable with being able to talk about what happened to us. Telling our story gives us courage to talk with each other. There are new parts and new depths we are sharing with one another.

REMINDS US OF WHERE WE WERE –  We have in no way “arrived”. We are only a couple of years distant from our problems, and could easily go back there if we hardened our hearts. Remembering where we were reminds us of our sinful condition and of our great need for God.

unity candleREMINDS US OF WHAT GOD HAS DONE – The progress we have made has only come from God. Sharing our story reminds us that He changed our heart and our desires. We have also seen God provide for us in many ways: the move from Buffalo, good support groups, good counselors, new friends, a good church, and most recently, some financial relief.

ALLOWS US TO HELP OTHERS – This is the most wonderful part! God has taken our messed up lives and used them to be an encouragement to others. He has used it for good.  When we started sharing our story, we were able to connect with other hurting people. “Broken world” people understand “broken world” people.


WHERE TO FIND OUR STORY
Here are some places where you can hear our story and here how our world fell apart, our recovery started, and how it has developed:

Podcasts
Porn to Purity Podcast:  Click Here

Covenant Eyes Podcast:   Part 1 Part 2 Part 3

 

Articles
LifeSiteNews.com:  Click Here For Article

WHAT ABOUT YOUR STORY?
We believe that every person and couple needs to come to the point where they share their story. There is great power in our stories of struggle with sexual addiction. People need to hear you and us identifying with them. People need to known they are not alone. People need to know there is hope.

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Jeff, Marsha… What Happened to Your Site on Friday?

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Your World Fell Apart? Focus on These Things NOW!

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